Question:
Is there any way I can persuade my wife to use a vibrator on herself while I watch? She likes me to use it with her but says it’s not the same on her own.
I would love to watch her play with herself.
Answer:
Here’s the thing: some women are totally comfortable using their trusty vibe with their partners watching, some aren’t. It’s just a ‘thing’ women have. We’re so used to having to hide it away for fear men will be threatened by them, it’s weird having to pull them out of the drawer and show what we get up to when you’re not around!
Then there’s the fact that most women orgasm within minutes with their vibrator and take – ahem – slightly longer with their partners. All this is probably going through her mind.
What I’d usually suggest is what you’re already doing: you using it on her to get her used to her vibrator in bed with the two of you. Then, it’s a small step for her to put her hands on top of yours, then you pull your hands out so she’s left holding it – and hopefully so turned on she continues the job. I suspect you’ve tried that.
Other reasons why she may not want to use it solo in front of you are because she feels self-conscious, it’s unsatisfying or she wants it left as her private treat. If she’s self-conscious, get her to try it with very dim lighting and with her eyes closed. Sure, you might not get a great view but once she’s done it a few times, she’ll get more comfortable and you can turn the lights up.
She may find it unsatisfying because she’s self conscious with you watching her. If the reason is she wants to keep her solo vibrator sessions for herself, I’m afraid you’re going to have to just accept it. In that case, relinquish the vibe and ask her to use her fingertips instead.
