Tracey Cox Help

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IF YOU’RE HAVING SEX PROBLEMS

See your doctor and look at your lifestyle: Check any medical conditions or medications aren’t to blame. Lots of prescription drugs can affect your sex drive (some medications contribute to impotence, others reduce your sex drive). How is your general health? Cutting back on cigarettes, alcohol and recreational drugs, eating properly, getting sleep and exercise can also make an enormous difference to your energy and libido levels.

Consider seeing a sex therapist. Sex therapists deal with specific sexual issues. You can see a sex therapist through Relate (see the above details) You could also try The British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy (BASRT). It provides a list of qualified therapists, grouped by area. Visit their website and click on therapists, then click on your area for sex therapists near you. The website is www.basrt.org.uk.

IF YOU’RE HAVING RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

You could try finding the answers in books: Hot Relationships (my book) offers practical solutions to many common relationship issues. Because there are so many diverse relationship issues, it’s impossible to list specific titles for each here, but a good place to start is to try searching www.amazon.com or www.amazon.co.uk. Type in your general problem area on the search engine and look at the book titles suggested.

Consider seeing a counsellor, couples counsellor or psychologist Contact Relate (see details above) or The British Psychological Society (see details above) for qualified therapists in your area. Often, problems with relationships with loved ones or people in general are a result of low self-esteem, the way you were brought up or other events which have affected the way you now view the world or relate to people. All chats with a therapist are confidential and an expert can often get to the bottom of the problem in a few sessions, while you may struggle with it for a lifetime. Plenty of people see therapists – including therapists and relationship experts! It sometimes helps to have an objective, professional view of your patterns of thinking and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. You go and see a heart specialist if you’re having heart problems, why not see a relationship specialist if you’re having problems in that area?