This page lists counselling services, book information and other contact numbers which you may find useful. Most of the contacts are UK based, but some have affiliate organisations overseas and can help with overseas queries.

IF YOU’RE HAVING SEX PROBLEMS

You could try finding the answers in books. Hot Sex and supersex (my books) are good general titles which address most problems, Sex Inspectors: Masterclass (also mine) is particularly good for long-term couple issues as is Quickies (mine) when it’s released in June 2006. For mismatched libidos I’d also recommend The Sex Starved Marriage by Michele Weiner Davis. For Women Only by Jennifer and Laura Berman is great for specific female problems. Other good, general, non-judgemental sex texts include: The New Male Sexuality by Bernie Zilbergeld, The Sex Book by Suzi Godson and the ever-timeless The New Kinsey Report on Sex by June M. Reinisch. The Big Bang by the writers at nerve.com (Em and Lo) is great but edgy (for the more adventurous and open-minded) as is The Guide to Getting it On by Paul Joannides. All the books are available on amazon.

Consider general counselling. Often problems which seem sexually based, are more to do with the way your relationship is functioning in general. It’s worth ringing a counsellor or psychologist and making an appointment to check your relationship is sound, before moving onto the more specific services of a sex therapist. Relate offer a wide range of relationship support options. Couples, individuals, young people and families can work with a counsellor on their private problems. They also run workshops if you’re having a baby, getting married or getting over a break-up. Information about their services are on their website and they provide counselling by phone or via the net. Their one-on-one counselling is not expensive and fees are based on your income. Their phone number is +44 (0)845 456 1310 and their website is www.relate.org.uk The British Psychological Society provides a list of qualified therapists, grouped by area. Visit their website and click on ‘Find a Psychologist?’, then click on your area to find one near you. The website is www.bps.org.uk.